Online Dating

So, I’m recently single after chasing what I thought was love for over a year. I won’t go into the boring details of this episode in my life just now. I’ll leave that for later.

Anyway, now that I’m a free agent again I want to meet some new men for fun and also to expand my friendship circle. So how does a forty year old queer find new friends in Cape Town?

I could go to the few bars that are concentrated around a small block in Green Point. Maybe even the steam bath up the road. The problem here is that my ex uses it too and I just don’t want to see him right now. So I decided to re-activate my profile on one of the popular gay-dating sites.  

After updating my pics, including a body-shot, I started checking out the other profiles and waited to see if I would get any hits. Well, to my delighted surprise some of the sexiest men and boys started contacting me wanting to go for a drink or hook-up. Apart from giving me a welcome ego boost, I found that most of these guys also wanted the same thing – meeting other guys to just be friends and maybe something more in time. So I accepted one or two of the offers to meet up and had such a great time with these guys.

We didn’t jump into bed or head for the steam bath right away, we chatted for hours while enjoying a glass or three of wine. It was refreshing to talk to guys who were actually interested in me and my opinions, and not just wanting to have a shag. Anyway, future ‘dates’ were arranged for later this week, and I’m looking forward to seeing them again.

So to those of you who are still not sure about online dating give it a try. You might be pleasantly surprised.